ThE DaTe….?


Dressed up ready to go…. Awaiting with my stomach in knots, anticipating this date for which I had dreamed of all my life. With the man who I thought I would never meet. Our eyes met on a sunny breezy day. I smiled and so did he. From across the park we both were talking to someone else and laughing could it be about the same joke? Gallant was he strong tall and handsome. Yep, a tall glass of water so to speak. How blessed could I be that I would meet such a man with the smile that make me feel so warm and exciting. As we both work the picnic we ended up beside one another. Eager to talk he says hi, I smile and say hello. Wow what a connection; it was like two magnets that was being pulled together to make a complete part. Great conversation that ended up in him asking me out on a date. Me nervous not sure what to say I exhale and say yes.

Of course my mind racing; thinking in my mind when he  picks me up  I wonder; will he open the car door for me, or will simply call or text me to say he is outside. No this is what he does being the gentleman he is; he rings the doorbell, I answer he stands there for a minute and says;  Wow you look beautiful; are you ready?  I smile as he takes my hand to help me down the stairs. He opens the door for me and waits until I get in and then closes it. So I check him out as he walks around the front of the car, then I reach over and unlocks his door. He was impressed and smile. Then as he opens the door and get in; I smell his cologne and it immediately rushes up my nose to my brain.  Oooh sexy smell.  I love when a man smells good, he says  again are you ready? I look with a gleam in my eye and say yes.

We proceed to talk as he drives us to our destination. He continues being a gentleman; and ask are ok, I say yes I am fine thanks. He ask what favorit music is and I say smooth jazz, Boney James, Jeff Lorber etc. He say yes I like that type of music as well; grown, sexy up and relax music (he says).  Then he quickly puts in a cd and turns it low and what do you know its Boney James.  (I smile).


When we arrive at our destination he get out walks around the front of the car and opening the door grabbing my hand to help me out of the car. When we enter the restaurant he open the door, and proceeds to handle business; allowing me to walk first as he hold the door; He greets the Hostess; the he gently put his hand on the small of my back as  the waitress leads us  to the table.  Where this man pulls out my chair seats me and skoots me under the table. And I get another smell of his cologne. Ohh my my my. So I then look around and smile. I then look around the restaurant very elegant place; good food; nice atmosphere and of course more great conversation with lots of laughter.

Time to go; While walking out of course I take a look at what he has on; first his shoes; then his pants; the front;the back and then chest wow this guy is well put together. Which brings about more nervous knots.  He  then reaches for my hand helps me down the stairs and to the car and opens the door for me and waits until I get in the car to shut the door. Yea that’s what’s up. I so love being a women and even more so when treated like one. Nothing like a man who treats a woman respectful, gracious and sweet. 

Anyway on with the date.. We proceed to ride down the street in his good smelling car his cologne mixed with my perfume.. The conversations starts off with him saying; Let me say again you look beautiful and smell very nice; did you enjoy your dinner. I smiled and said yes I did, as well as the atmosphere and company. He asked would you like to take a drive by the lake and if you’re up to it maybe walk and talk get to know each other more. I said; sure. Okay a couple more points for him he is on a roll.. He tells a joke about a co-worker and I laugh very hard. I am getting more relaxed. We get to a spot at the lake and he walks around to open the car door and puts his hand out to help me out of the car but this time he gently pulls me close to him and brushes his cheek against mine. Smooth!  You don’t get this every day ladies… No way do this… Fine, good smelling, sexy and a gentleman. My my my… And who said chivalry was dead.


Long story short we walk, talk, and laugh, and have a good time. The lake is a little breezy but still I am hot because with this guy I am warm all over we head to the marina where he pulls out of his pocket this small radio and he turns some jazz and ask for this dance…Yea,  I am serious yall it was all that.. he takes my hand and gently  grabs me ooh so gently around the waist and close to him .. I wanted to melt but stood firm.. we slowly dance to a smooth jazz tunes. It was beautiful full moon. The light from the moon was so bright it was the only light needed to light the area where we were. We dance for two songs and  yep you know it  … It happened!!  he gently kissed my neck then my cheek; then my lips… it was going down.. I melted like butter.. I never thought it would possible to be treated with such respect and gentleness. I thought to myself; I deserve it and much more.  then for some reason out of the blue a loud ringing began, just kept ringing, ringing, ringing, it wouldn’t stop, until….. We’ll I’ll be …. I was dreaming LOL


Written by Ginajo

Do U KnOw U hAvE a DiAmOnD?

YOU  know I have given you my version of the world. I have loved you as best as I know how. I am not perfect. Nor have I claimed to be. My body isn’t perfect; I am not even the perfect shade of color. My hair doesn’t flow down my back or shoulder length and if is I don’t wear it in the way nice styles you see in the magazines. My feet aren’t manicured all the time and sometimes I do forget to shave. I work so hard during the day and I know you do to and some days I don’t have dinner prepared when you come home. I don’t wear a size 5 or 9 or even 10, my waistline isn’t like the young people. I am not a size 12, 16 or 20 I do have a small frame and not much body. Yes I do wear glasses more than my contacts; my eyes aren’t blue, green, gray or even light brown. No I don’t dress like the young people. My clothes do cover my body. And No I don’t hang out in the clubs every weekend, or dance provocative in the mirrors. My skirt is long and my shirts cover my chest. Yes, I may.  Dance loose, my skirt is short and I like to show off my chest. I like different color hair and bright colors, and wear lots of jewelry. Ok sure I wear a new wig or hairpiece or braids all the time. No I am not rich and I work hard to keep things going. I may be wealthy and drive a fancy car and can by what I want. Not a big deal that I don’t have a car and catch the bus. I don’t dress like the models. I didn’t go to college yet I worked all my life. Being educated is what I am and I love school. I don’t bench press 250, or do 250 push ups, or situps. I may eat too many sweets at times and I don’t walk or exercise enough. All these things you can say about me and more.


BUT I am unique in many ways. A true diamond in the rough I am. Bold, Funny, Loving, and Caring. I made a lot bad decisions when it came to you. I have said some things I am ashamed and sorry for, I have even had some bad character defects come out in anger or hurt. Yet I have made changes for which you either don’t see or don’t care to see. Truth is told I can only be me. My love is true. I show you I love you all the time. You may be asking yourself how? Because I show up. I have given you my love my time, talent and treasure and yet I am never enough. There are always an excuses or reasons why you can’t treat me the way I have always treated you. Oh blinded one, when I am gone you will realize how much I actually loved you. So much so I’d rather pray with you then lay with you.

Yours Truly,

The one who’s always there

Yeah, I bet this really shook some people. Good it should, we go thru life sometimes not really realizing how we are treating the one who loves us the most.  Writing this was an eye opener for me as well. Male or Female must treat each other better. You can sleep with someone, but not truly respect and love them. And if so STOP IT. Accepting someone for who they truly are and not changing them means you love them unconditionally. If you trying to change them or are searching for what you think you’re missing in them you will miss out on what could be the best thing that ever happen to you. Remember what goes around comes around.  When you know yourself that you are a person with flaws and bad character defects or a checker past and true love present itself. Don’t abuse it or corrupt it if you don’t want it walk away leave it to be found by someone who is really  searching for it and when found will cherish it. (U know when you ain’t right)


**A true diamond will be found down deep in the dirt and brushed off, cleaned and polished in order for it to shine for as long as it’s loved. JuS DeW U “But don’t hurt anyone in the process”

 Written by Ginajo