Just B4

Every day I thinking-lightthink about some parts of my past that I wish I hadn’t done or should have done. And as the day goes by I find myself being thankful of all that I had done. Thanking God for the bad decisions as well as the right ones. It’s not easy living this life. It’s full of ups and downs, twists, turns and lessons are learned. At times the; should have, could have and would have manages to come up in many conversations. I’ve said it as well as the person or people I’ve been conversing with. Yet when we actually look over our lives we can truly say that we are blessed. Yeah, I know that’s a song, but it is so true.


All the bullets we dodged, and the car accidents we wasn’t in, the crazy people and hurtful situations that could have befall us didn’t. And I am thankful so thankful. And I know you are. Although we have put ourselves in danger numerous of times. Every time we had unprotected sex, every time we drove home drunk and on drugs, every time we walked into dark alleyways, and walking into various homes where we took that drug we shouldn’t have, every time we didn’t care about me. Every time we opened my mouth and spoke negative about somebody. That caused us pain not them. We are all trying to stay on the positive boat. It can be calm waves and sunshine one season and then stormy rains, rocky waves, lightening, thunder with the boat flipping and twisting the next. Nobody likes to be in that season. When we are in that rocky season we think about how it felt when it was calm waves and sunshine. Wanting it to stay that way but it doesn’t.

We sometimes get to a point where we felt we’ve overlooked something, or somebody. The truth is we truly didn’t. You met the people you were supposed to meet, worked at the company at the time you were needed, love the people you were supposed to for the time you did, and traveled to the place you were meant too. All to actually touch someone, free someone, love someone, help someone, deliver a message, or teach a lesson.

purpose-You may not believe it, but it’s all designed. It’s part of your purpose. We don’t often like the situations or people and places we go but it’s meant for us. Some of us have to keep getting tested because we either didn’t learn anything or the message wasn’t clear to them or us. Our lessons can last a minute, an hour, a day, a month, or a year and sometimes years. Yes, it’s hard. And there is only one guarantee. That you will learn something from your experience. Good or Bad. But the key is to keep it moving at all times. And focus on you. Remember, there are some Just B4’s to consider. There are always consequences to your actions Good or Bad.

stop-think-28185526Just B4 you pass judgment on someone else think about it. That could be you, too!  And this has a boomerang effect.

Just B4 you rise up in anger think about there must be pain their and adding fuel to the fire could get you burned. And this has a boomerang effect.

Just B4 you lie down to have unprotected sex, Stop!!! Please protect yourself and your family. And this has a boomerang effect.

Just B4 you lie remember you have to tell another one and another one just to keep up with all the ones you previously told. And this has a boomerang effect.

Just B4 your steal remember someone is always watching and you didn’t get caught today but tomorrow is not promised. It has a boomerang effect.

Just B4 you cause friction, problems and issues in someone life remember this has a boomerang effect.

Just B4 your sleep with someone’s  wife or husband remember someone is going to sleep with yours.

Just B4 you help remember someone will help you to when you need it.

Just B4 you give someone whose hungry something to eat someone will feed you as well.

Just B4 you make the determination to love someone unconditionally remember someone will love you the same.

Just B4 the thought came into your head to actually seek and find Jesus, he has always been there and was waiting for you.

Just B4

Just B4

Just B4

I could go on and on… Remember all situations have a boomerang effect. Good or bad. If you do good, show good intentions and actually love someone just because. Remember that’s good is coming for you.

create-your-futureIf you create destruction, anger, hatred, ignorance and kayos that what’s coming for you. So Just B4 you say anything, do anything and go anywhere think about how you want it to affect your life.

It’s your purpose.


JuS DeW U “Think Just B4”


2017It’s a New Year time to make some changes right? Well, this is a good time to start, continue or finish a positive aspect of your life. Some but not all have made resolutions of some sort to help put a title to what need to change. And others just flowed right into the New Year without blinking an eye. Or just saying it is what it is. In any case, let’s get it popping. Your hopes and dreams of making more money, finding a new job, buying a house, finding a new church, investing, learning a new trade, going back to school or being open to a new relationship. Whatever your heart’s desire, let’s do it. All you need is a plan, right?

Yep! Now that you have recouped from all the celebrating it's time to roll up your sleeves and get busy. Sit down in a quiet place and think about what you want, and how you’re going to get it. You need a plan of action. Dream, Build, Enjoy, sounds easy right? Yeah, but No. Anything that's worth it, is going to require sacrifice and hard work. You must know that you know this is what you want. Without a doubt. Once you have decided then waste no time getting it. Nonstop. Kind of like a locomotive full speed ahead. Without looking back. Forward movement. Yes, yes you can.

road-perspective-dark-clouds-2016And those of us who have survived a tough year of lost loved ones, friendships dissolved, relationships ended, business fails and financial setbacks. Don’t give up. Take some time and figure out what went wrong. Write down the pro and cons of what you attempted. Really evaluate the situation to see what you could have done differently. And most of all what you learned from it. Carefully evaluate your state of mind when you made the decision that cost you a friendship, a loved one, a job, money, a business, status, or a reputation. Come to the realization that it's done and you can’t turn back, but you can make a conscious effort not to make that decision again.

love-your-selfGain some acceptance and you can move on. Believe me, there is something positive that came out of this year. Even though it may have been rough though out the year. Just think about it, you survived it. And that means, you are stronger than you were last year. What an accomplishment you’ve made. Wow! What a mighty God we serve. Now you are ready. For what? The blessing that is about to fall down on you. I say hold on tight your about to be blessed abundantly. They will flow so fast and it will be so many blessings you won’t have room to receive.

better-lifeEach time we make it to the next year there should be a celebration within ourselves of all we have accomplished and overcome. Life is so precious, and time goes by so fast. We must actually realize who we are and what we want out of this life because the time we are so blessed with wasting we can’t get back. So with the time we have left lets love more, laugh a lot, hug many, and give more. It seems hard at the time, but I can give a guarantee that if you love, laugh, hug and give you will receive it back 10 fold. Try it. Now I am hoping this article has given you the inspiration needed to move forward. All I want to do is inspire, uplift and encourage you to be the best positive person possible and to JuS DeW U.

 Remember, no weapon formed against you shall prosper.

BeinG DoWN

puzzle-pieces-life-28277802Now what does that mean you might say? We’ll we live in a world of uncertainty. Nothing is as quite as it seems. Or is it? Truth be told there are no secrets hidden in this world, we choose not to see the truth even when it’s right in front our faces. Then we exhaust ourselves in trying to make a square peg fit into a circle it never works. Okay, sometimes we do get the old shuck and jive routine. And we are blinded for a bit. Now that bit can be a week, a month, or some years until we realize we actually signed up for that. It ends up sad, crying, and angry all the stages of a Breakup.

Now don’t get it twisted I am NOT, I repeat NOT just talking about relationships. There are many situations of this world that take you to this place. Loss of a job, friendship and business partner. I have had my share of all these as I am sure all of you have as well.


I got youBut this is a blog is about Being Down. Actually being stable, dedicated and respect to the cause. Many don’t actually know what that means. They say certain phrases like, I got you, and don’t worry about it, we gone be good, or together we can conquer the world, or The “WE”statements.  You know them.

We’ll let’s take a look at what the words stability, dedication and respect. For most of us, we got that down when it comes to ourselves. We are definitely looking out for number ONE. Let me ask you something. How’s that working for you?

Some will say it’s the bomb and some will say not well. Hopefully, this will help us all be more mindful of what we say, do and how we act when comes towards each other.

stability-word-columns-strong-support-24936623First: Stability, let’s see what the bible says about it. Actually, there about many verses in the bible about stability. Pick one that captures your attention.

Proverbs 28:42   when a land transgresses, it has many rulers, but with a man of understanding and knowledge, its stability will long continue.

Wow, that says a lot, remember there are many verses in the bible about stability. Now let see what the dictionary says about stability.

Dictionary definition of stability is: Stability is the state of being resistant to change and not prone to wild fluctuations in emotion.

After reading both of those definitions I think there is a better understanding of what stability should be in you life. So are you stable? Can you truly hold down yourself and someone else? If we review the person, place or thing there should be evidence of a strong platform in place. Strong enough that the platform will be unwavering.

DedicationSecond: Dedication now that’s a great word as well. Let’s see what the bible has to say about this word. There are many verses in the bible about being dedicated.

Psalm 1 (ESV) 1 Blessed is the man [a]
who walks not in the counsel of the wicked,
nor stands in the way of sinners,
nor sits in the seat of scoffers;
but his delight is in the law [b] of the Lord,
and on his law he meditates day and night.

He is like a tree
planted by streams of water
that yields its fruit in its season,
and its leaf does not wither.
In all that he does, he prospers.
The wicked are not so,
but are like chaff that the wind drives away.

Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment,
nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous;
for the Lord knows the way of the righteous,
but the way of the wicked will perish.

This one really gets me thinking. How about you? Ok, let’s see what the dictionary says about Dedication.

Dictionary definition of Dedication; is defined as the state of being committed to someone, a ceremony for the beginning of something such as the birth of a child, or something written, said or expressed in honor or memory of someone.

Now this gets me thinking as well. We have to ask ourselves some questions. Who, what or where are we dedicated to? And is the person, place or thing worthy of our dedication? As well as are we up for the challenge of being dedicated?

Can someone count on you? No matter what? Are you being down?

Third: Respect: Let’s see what the bible say about Respect.

Proverbs 14:31 He who oppresses the poor taunts his Maker, But he who is gracious to the needy honors Him.

RespectUDictionary definition of Respect: a feeling of admiring someone or something that is good, valuable, important, etc.: a feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way. : A particular way of thinking about or looking at something.

Example: If a guy (or girl) respects you, they are going to communicate. They are going to answer texts promptly and explain what happened. They are going to take you out like a normal human being; they won’t flake or bail at the last-minute and they do what they can to make you happy.

When you respect your partner in love, friends or business partner in a relationship, you don’t lie, cheat, steal or do any of the other things that usually make relationships fall apart. This isn’t to say that they will be perfect and that something won’t arise. We need to try to keep things smooth, even and fair.

I know they say the people who care about you the most are the ones who hurt you the most. But maybe we’ve got that backwards. What if it’s not that they care about you, but rather, you care about them, so you end up upset that someone you feel so strongly about clearly doesn’t feel that way for you?

Ultimately, people who don’t care about you usually end up hurting you. If you keep having conversation after conversation about how you two need to communicate more or how they needs to stop lying, cheating, then chances are they never cared about you in the first place.

The same goes for platonic and professional relationships. Your coworker isn’t going to apply for that promotion you’ve been wanting behind your back if she respects you and instead, will talk to you about it first even if it means an uncomfortable conversation.

Mutual respect is perhaps the most important component to any successful relationship, but you don’t hear too many relationship gurus talking about it that much. Respect (or lack thereof) is arguably the root of a lot of problems in romantic, platonic and professional relationships.

karmaSo now you know, hopefully you will be respectful to someone, build a stable environment and be dedicated to the cause. Always remember treat someone like you want to be treated. What you put out is what you will receive. Sooner or Later it will be your turn.

I learned a great deal researching and writing this blog. And I hope you are while reading it… Share it with the people you love and care about. So that you and the other person(s) can take your friendship, relationships and business to the next level.

Tip: In order for someone to be part of something you’re doing, or be down with you there must be incentive, encouragement and loyalty.


JuS DeW U “Stable, Respectfully, and Dedicated


Written by GinaJo

WhaT BeLoNgs 2 Me

broken-heart-24190167It’s not like I haven’t been here before this place where I feel empty, lost and unsure about me, my future and about my past yeah this place. Way too familiar the last time I was here.  I thought was the last time. I would never come back, I just knew this was it. This time it felt so real. When I saw it, touched it , I couldn’t believe it. It was so bright and shiny I couldn’t wait to get to it so I ran fast and I jump in. And just like that, it turned into a mirage. Imagine my surprise. So I quickly tried to walk away and ran right into a dead-end street. Big yellow signs that said no way out. Except to go back the way you came. I didn’t want to go there. I didn’t want to face what I had seen in myself and all the things that I had done and didn’t do. I didn’t listen, I saw the signs I promise, I just ignored them because I so wanted this to be. I wanted this so bad, maybe that’s why I didn’t get it. It wasn’t mine. It belonged to someone else clearly, but it wasn’t mine. It was mine to touch, to see, to feel, but not to keep.

which-way-26301620Now what do I do now that I have left that place that was so familiar.  I’m thinking, learning, building me, again. I don’t like it, but it’s necessary. Can somebody tell me why I keep finding it, but I can’t keep it. Where do I find what belongs to me. I see it, I hear it calling my name, it even warms me when I’m cold, it lifts my head when I’m sad, it makes me laugh, it comforts me, oh how it feels me with such passion, it adores me and it protects me. Yet, I keep finding imitation and look a likes, and been taken to mirages with echoes of lies time and time again. So here I am trying to put the pieces back together again. Wondering what did I do… and perhaps it’s not me. I’ve come to the conclusion that it wasn’t mine. But seriously, can someone tell me how to find what belongs to me. I believe I’m ready for it, I’m open, loyal, excited, and stable.  Stop you say, Wait, you say… focus.

rebuildOk, ok, ok, I’ll go back from where I came. And I’ll start again this time I will take a different route but this time. I’ll read the signs all of them. And I will pay attention and listen. And even if it’s shiny I won’t run and won’t jump. Easy does it, a slow and steady pace. Then I will find what belongs to me. And when I do.

It will need me, want me, desire me, protect me, comfort me and won’t lie to me but embrace me. There will be no echoes of lies, and most of all it will want to stay with me because it belongs to me.

Written by GinaJo

Life happens and when it does.. lift your head and keep moving forward. If it hurts cry, if you can’t speak don’t, take the time needed to heal. Be U~ DeW U ~ LuV U because after all Ur all U got….Love yourself enough to know you deserve better. And wait for it.



I am hoping as you read this you get a revelation as well how you can begin again. Life, living it can bring you joy, sorrow and pain. But of course not in that order. There are so many choices in the world. Sometimes, but not often you hope you make the right choices for yourself. Growing up was hard enough, it would seem when you get older a lot of things should change. For some yes, but not for all. Basically because everyone’s growth is different. Slower than some others. But don’t get it, twisted it doesn’t make you better or less than the other.

Beginning again, from a bad career decision, relationships, friendships, love and the list go on. They all affect you in some way. They all have a grieving period. You got to go through to make it to the end. Sorry, no way around it. For some of us, we don’t make it  to the end. Some of us tap out before the end because we can’t bare the pain. Some of us medicate ourselves through. Not a good idea to try to numb yourself through that only leads you to more substance abuse and you’ve only got a few choices. Death, go to jail for stealing to feed your addiction or be institutionalized and pumped with more drugs. Then you got to get rid of those as well.

thinking-positive-17639389Making decision sometimes isn’t easy, but if you weigh the pros and the con’s you come up with the truth of it and just do what’s best for you. Because ultimately it is about you. Your well-being and your mental stability. Okay, let’s try and simplify it. If it causes you pain, hurt, confusion and kayos. Yep, it’s a no brainer you got to let it go. Walk away from people, places and things which causes any of the above.

Easy? NO… Doable? Yes.

world-globe-rustic-wood-background-33222820Many things of this world are harmful, we do damage to ourselves every day. Mentally, Physically and Spiritual. And try to act like we got it all together when we don’t. Drinking Alcohol (Excessive), Smoking (Cigarettes) (Cigar’s) (Drugs), Lying, Backbiting, Causing Strife, Cheating when you married, or Cheating while in a committed relationship, Using people, places and things, playing church, pretend Christians and the list goes on and on. I know, I know you don’t want to hear this, but I am afraid in order to Begin Again, you got to call it like you see it. ACCEPTANCE is the first step to Begin Again. Once you have identified your issues, then you must accept that it is part of your character. DESIRE second step you must have the desire to make a change. You got to want to if you don’t, you will keep spinning on that wheel of going nowhere fast. Seeing yourself actually happy and believing in that vision and setting goals for that vision of happiness to be reality. CHANGE its the third step, if you don’t see it, believe it how can you have the desire to change it. Right? So take one step at a time in changing your situation, circumstance or surrounding. Actually do something different, say something different, and go to a different place.

put-your-plan-action-18556254This requires action. You can do it. Now that you have accepted there is an issue, found the desire to do something, acted upon it to change it now you are ready to BEGIN AGAIN. Listen you can, you will, and you are better than you were yesterday. Just go forward and take a chance on you. You can strive to be the best you that you can be, and love yourself in the process. It takes time, but most of all it takes an effort. If nothing changes, guess what NOTHING CHANGES. Get out of the OUTCOME. Let it happen. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Freedom, Happiness, Love, Joy, Growth, Sanity, Stability, Comfort, Confidence.. I could go on and on. Now you got it so go JuS DeW U “BEGIN AGAIN”


Eyes watching

I see more than you think, I hear more than I speak.  Although you think I’m sleep I’m wide awake as you sneak. Hasn’t anyone told you there is no invisible cloak? Who are you that you so boldly place yourself upon a pedestal to be adorned? Castles built of sand that quickly turns to mush when it rains. False words leave your lips and leave them chapped with no carmex to cure. Yeah, Kings and Queens who rule under lies and manipulation have fallen from their weak thrones built to deceive and trap those who seek true love, goodness and kindness.

lost-confused-You think I’m caught in this web you weaved. Or lost in this mirage filled with chaos and confusion. Your traps won’t hold me long. Just paralyze me for only a short time until the truth frees me. You can’t hide lies and deception they always find a way to be exposed. What goes on in the dark always comes to the light. Crash, boom, bang its all revealed. You find yourself lost and alone or maybe desperate and sorrowful.  Because you had deceived, lied, used someone who loved you, cared for you, needed you or befriended you. Stop! and think before you start this web. You will fall and the fallen well what goes around comes around and be devoured with no trace.

more eyesSo don’t think people aren’t watching. They do see more than you think, yes they hear more then they speak. Although you think their sleep they are wide awake as you sneak.


Written by Ginajo



Hey, you came across my thoughts today as you often do. So I figure I would put into words what I’m thinking today. As mysterious as you appear that’s how mysteriously you leave each and every time I find you; Wait maybe that’s not accurate you find me. I miss you; I want to touch you, and feel you again. I know, I know each time you have come into my life. I’ve pushed away, avoided you, or hurt you. Not intentionally. However, in my defense, I didn’t know how to keep you happy constantly, I wanted to. I didn’t know how to fight for you. I tried, I felt I wasn’t enough, you needed and wanted someone else not me. I wasn’t good enough. Sometimes I didn’t touch you, or embrace you. Sometimes I yelled instead of calming talked. Something I made mistakes, but I never walked away from you. I was committed to you. I gave you all of me. Emptied my soul, opened my heart and poured it all out, only for you to walk away and leave me. Yes, I am still trying to figure out why? Questioning my life, my body, and my mind still, someone else gets to reap the benefits of holding you, laughing with you, playing with you, talking with you. You accepted all their imperfection. Why not mine? Am I so bad that you couldn’t stay with me, teach me, and grow with me? After all this time I still need you, desire you, and want you. But I need you to want, need, and desire me and only me.


I cry sometimes, you know, because you’re not there. It’s empty without you, yet I know you’ve moved on without me. They say wait for it. They say it wasn’t meant to be, they say if it’s not for you don’t be for it. I wonder have they ever felt like I feel right now. Longing, missing and waiting for my time.

There was a time when I looked for you but you were nowhere to be found. So I stopped searching for you. I stopped looking at my phone to see if you’ve called. I quit going to the mail box or checking my emails to see if you had written me. I stop wondering if I even cross your mind. I’ve even stopped day dreaming that you might climb mountains, cross the wavy sea, and walk for days in the cold wind to find me and say; Hey, I’d been looking for you all over, I missed so much, you have no idea what I have been through since the last time I saw you. I am so sorry, for losing you. And I will never leave you again. I need you in my life; I can’t make it with you. Can you ever forgive me; can we start over again, please? What a great ending to a romantic movie right, only in the movies right? We’ll just another one of my random thoughts of you, I do hope to be with you again someday, and it’s just not the same without you….

Hopeless Romantic


Written by Ginajo